Tell Me About … Fantasies #22

The topic for this time on Tell Me About … is FANTASIES, but first we would like to thank everyone who linked up posts about Training the last time. If you haven’t read the posts already then please check them out.  We realise that everyone is busy but if you have the time to read and comment on posts, that is always encouraging for those who have written them and much appreciated.

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This week Purple Sole has kindly agreed to choose the featured post and he has chosen Submissive training – is it necessary? by Julie of Master’s Pleasing Bitch.

What I liked was that Julie discussed how submissives aren’t trained like you would read in fiction, rather it is a process of communication between partners, with each dynamic being personal to each others needs.

I had to begin to learn how to be Master’s submissive. Bed room and play room stuff is easy in comparison to learning what they want from you as a person. It has been elements of my behaviour that have changed. This hasn’t happened through training but through reflection and communication. Read more


Fantasies are something that are really personal but often the sharing of them, and possibly the realising of them, is significant in a D/s relationship.  Do fantasies play a part in your dynamic, and if so, how and when are they used?  Do you have fantasies which have become reality? How has that come about and was it is good as you had hoped?

Please post all about the part that Fantasies play for you, and then link for us here on Tell Me About…

As always, please respond to the prompt in a way which works for you.

If you are new then please check out the rules and then take part by adding your post using the linky tool at the bottom of the page. Remember to display the Tell Me About … badge on your post, and  please comment on the other posts and promote on social media where possible.

If you would like more information about the how and the why, the what and the how of taking part, then you might want to read my post, Memes and Prompts.

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  1. Missy, I am going to drop a link here because I think — and I speak as someone who doesn’t “do” fantasy, really, and who has a Whole History To Unpack in regards to WHY — that sometimes fantasy is confusing and/or problematic in terms of “How do I approach this topic?” for people who might have similar experiences to mine.

    (You are, of course, welcome to keep or delete this linky comment as you see fit. I won’t be offended.)

    • Thank you for that. I will go and check it out but great if it helps someone. My relationship with fantasy has been complicated too so it will be interesting to read.

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